My wife and I split up in 2011. It’s not
the most pleasant experience and I
wouldn’t wish it on anybody. We were
married 25 years and our kids were off
at university. That led to the realization
that we were going different directions,
especially without the kids there to
bring us together.
It’s been difficult. It’s definitely been
an emotional roller coaster. Men don’t
generally feel comfortable talking about
this but I have some friends I was able
to talk it through with. I remember
one particular instance when I was
in Edmonton and I arranged to have
breakfast with a friend of the family.
He and his wife were good friends
with my ex-wife and I.
We were there for an hour and half.
For an hour and 15 minutes we were
talking about other things, kids and
sports, that sort of thing. And the last
15 minutes he looked up and said
“Oh yeah, I should ask you about the
divorce. I know when I get home my
wife’s going to say, “Well, did you talk
Nobody ever said to me “suck it
up,” and we that we stay together for
the kids. Nobody judged us because of
what we were doing.
It’s been a little bit of one foot in
front of the other. I guess at the end of
the day, it really is important to have
support, people around you, and I
know my ex-wife would say the same.
And kids. We have two grown-up
kids and it’s been difficult, no question
about it. They didn’t want this to
happen but at the same time, they’re
accepting of it.
I have to give a lot of credit to my
ex-wife, who never once said anything
negative about me to the kids. She never
asked the kids to take sides.
I think getting divorced is a little bit
of a self-discovery exercise. I think it’s
important for people to figure out for
themselves what’s important in their
lives. Be patient. It’s going to take time
and there are going to be some ups
and downs along the way.