Forget punishment and
rewards; think teachable
By JENNiFER ALLFoRD
Raising your child,
not your voice
You’re in aisle seven when the meltdown really begins. Just as you’re reaching for the spaghetti sauce, your kid reaches a whole new crescendo — from whine to full-on wail — followed by kicking and screaming, and accompanied, of course, by
sympathetic or judgmental looks from other shoppers.
Ah, the temper tantrum.
As a mother of four in Grand Prairie, 36-year-old
Monika Johnson has seen her share. Her kids are all
in school now, but she remembers it well every time
she sees a little kid acting up in the grocery store.
“I feel for their parents,” Johnson says. “Often
times the child is feeling hurried. I know with
my kids, they were done by that point in the day,
whether they were tired or hungry, basically, I
would just have to remove them from the situation.”
Like many moms, Johnson has and continues
to get a lot of child-rearing support from a close
network of friends. “There are five of us and we
have 17 kids between us, all similar ages,” she says.
“We use each other as sounding boards, whether it’s
something general or a specific incident. We’re often
seeking each other’s advice and wisdom.” Johnson
and her friends also seek out seminars and books
for advice on parenting.