unhealthy relationship or poor work-life
balance, you may need to make some life
decisions that lead you in a more positive
direction. If you have a relentless inner
critic who continually finds fault, you
may need to learn how to exercise some
“Anyone with low self-worth has
probably got some negative dialogue
going on,” Ellis-Toddington says. “We
can say things in our heads that are
abusive, that we would never say to
another human being.”
Practising self-acceptance and positive
self-talk are surefire ways to build your
Good or bad, understanding our self-worth is part of the human condition,
And it’s something we have the power
to change. Here are six proven ways to
build a strong foundation of self-worth.
Acknowledge your thoughts. Our
thoughts can greatly influence our
approach to life. Is your inner critic the
loudest voice in your head? Mindfulness
meditation, and mindfulness in general,
are great ways to get in touch with
negative self-talk. Acknowledging
your thoughts goes a long way toward
loosening their grip.
Cut yourself some slack. Adopting
a more accepting and encouraging
approach to yourself can uncover more
rewarding paths to travel in life. You
wouldn’t berate a friend for not living
up to unrealistic expectations, so why
are you so hard on yourself? Be a nicer
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You’ll reap the rewards in better self-esteem and better health.
Go out on a limb. Taking risks fosters
continual learning and growth. When
you succeed, you gain self-confidence.
When you fail, you learn to reflect on
what you can do differently and practise
Build yourself a trophy case. Track
your successes—this can be as simple
as jotting them down in a notebook or
adding them into your smartphone.
Then, take a moment every week to
review and genuinely savour what
you’ve achieved. You’ll be surprised
at how you’ll start to notice all your
accomplishments—both large and
Practising self-acceptance and
positive self-talk are
surefire ways to build
person—to you. And avoid comparing
yourself, or your success, to others.
Connect with others. We learn more
about ourselves by connecting with
others. And others can influence how
we feel about ourselves––good or bad.
Surrounding yourself with positive
people creates a strong network that can
support and encourage you.
Take care of the basics. Making self-care a priority sends you an important
subliminal message—your well-being
is important, because you’re worth it.
Strive for a healthy lifestyle that’s fuelled
by healthy eating, regular activity and
adequate sleep. Carve out time to de-stress, enjoy hobbies, spend time with
positive people, or simply take a bath.