unhealthy relationship or poor work-lifebalance, you may need to make some lifedecisions that lead you in a more positivedirection. If you have a relentless innercritic who continually finds fault, youmay need to learn how to exercise someself-compassion.
“Anyone with low self-worth has
probably got some negative dialogue
going on,” Ellis-Toddington says. “We
can say things in our heads that are
abusive, that we would never say to
another human being.”
Practising self-acceptance and positive
self-talk are surefire ways to build your
Good or bad, understanding our self-worth is part of the human condition,Ellis-Toddington says.
And it’s something we have the powerto change. Here are six proven ways tobuild a strong foundation of self-worth.
Acknowledge your thoughts. Ourthoughts can greatly influence ourapproach to life. Is your inner critic theloudest voice in your head? Mindfulnessmeditation, and mindfulness in general,are great ways to get in touch withnegative self-talk. Acknowledgingyour thoughts goes a long way towardloosening their grip.
Cut yourself some slack. Adoptinga more accepting and encouragingapproach to yourself can uncover morerewarding paths to travel in life. Youwouldn’t berate a friend for not livingup to unrealistic expectations, so whyare you so hard on yourself? Be a nicer
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You’ll reap the rewards in better self-esteem and better health.
Go out on a limb. Taking risks fosterscontinual learning and growth. Whenyou succeed, you gain self-confidence.
When you fail, you learn to reflect onwhat you can do differently and practiseself-compassion.
Build yourself a trophy case. Trackyour successes—this can be as simpleas jotting them down in a notebook oradding them into your smartphone.
Then, take a moment every week toreview and genuinely savour whatyou’ve achieved. You’ll be surprisedat how you’ll start to notice all youraccomplishments—both large andsmall. |a
Practising self-acceptance andpositive self-talk aresurefire ways to buildyour self-worth
person—to you. And avoid comparingyourself, or your success, to others.
Connect with others. We learn moreabout ourselves by connecting withothers. And others can influence howwe feel about ourselves––good or bad.
Surrounding yourself with positivepeople creates a strong network that cansupport and encourage you.
Take care of the basics. Making self-care a priority sends you an importantsubliminal message—your well-beingis important, because you’re worth it.
Strive for a healthy lifestyle that’s fuelledby healthy eating, regular activity andadequate sleep. Carve out time to de-stress, enjoy hobbies, spend time withpositive people, or simply take a bath.