When your Instagram post gets 197likes, you may feel a glow of temporaryconfidence and high self-esteem.
But external factors such as otherpeople’s opinions are an unstable
Your most important relationship is with you
WRITTEN BY GREG HARRIS
KEEP IN MIND
Instead of letting others’ opinions hold sway, assess yourself on terms you decide are important and in a non-critical way.
foundation to build your self-worth on,psychologists say.
“External validators come and
go,” notes Jennifer Ellis-Toddington,
a counsellor with the University of
Lethbridge’s Counselling and Career
Services office. “It’s nice to get all those
likes, but it’s better not to put weight on
things outside your control.”
Internal approval, which is believing
in your own intrinsic worth, is more
authentic and durable. Instead of letting
others’ opinions hold sway, assess
yourself on the terms you decide are
important, and in a non-critical way.
Your most important lifelongrelationship is with you. Yourcircumstances and the messages you tellyourself influence how you navigate thatrelationship.
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