SIGNS THAT A CHILDMAY BE BULLIED
• Chronic anxiety,
• Stomach aches,
headaches and other
• Bedwetting, insomnia,
• Loneliness, isolation
and low self-esteem
• Fear of going to
school and/or other
• Dropping school
• Bruises or other
• Damaged or lost
clothes or other
• Threatening to hurt
self or others.
SIGNS THAT A CHILDMAY BE BULLYING
• Aggressive with family
members, pets or
• Manipulative and
• Easily frustrated and
quick to anger
• Fails to see why
bullying is wrong
• Low concern for
• Has unexplained
objects and money
• Has friends who bully
• Engages in substance
• Has compromised
COMMON TO BOTHBULLY AND BULLIED
• Few opportunities to
• Power imbalance
among role models.
might be bullied or engaged in bullying,find out what is going on and discusshow you can support them.”
Document. If your child is beingcyberbullied, for example, “Print outall of the hurtful, hateful messages, soyou have evidence,” Dixon-Wells says.
“Don’t just delete them and hope it willgo away.”
Report. Alert your child’s teacher, coachor other responsible adult––includingpolice––if bullying veers into hate crimeor pornography.
Equip. Help your child learn how torespond to bullying. The WITS program,which Hoglund helped launch, teacheskids to Walk away, Ignore, Talk it out andSeek help.”
Rebalance. Break the bullying patternby involving your children in activitiesthat build their confidence, hone theirsocial skills and help them have positivefriendships.
Shift. Work with others to create spacesthat foster kindness rather than bullying.
“A common language can be reallyimportant,” Hoglund says. In schoolsthat have embraced the WITS program,for example, “Have your WITS aboutyou” can stop bullying in its tracks.
Given such support in her early school
days, Dixon-Wells says, “I would not
have been a silent bystander. I would
have spoken up.”
She urges everyone to do the same
when bullying strikes: “The solution
starts with you.” |a
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